Let’s face it, nobody is perfect in this fallen world. That means that there’s no such thing as a perfect family. Every family and each person in it is unique and different. So, there’s not really magic. A one-size-fits-all parenting plan that’s guaranteed to give you a healthy and happy family. Most parents are doing good at their parenting job, they just don’t realise it. And if you feel you aren’t good at it, there are some basic principles that will help you create a happy family. A family that can grow emotionally and relationally.
As the parent, if you’re happy, your kids will be too. And if you follow a healthy lifestyle, they’ll follow. You should basically set the example for them. They look up to you. This is especially true if your kids are still young or small.
Here are a few ways how you can create a more happy and healthy family.
Try to build healthy morals and values
The decisions and choices you make with your kids today are likely to affect them for the rest of their lives. It’s important to talk openly and honestly with your kids. Regarding their age, they should know that they can discuss anything with you. And not feel scared or shy to approach you. Trying to build healthy morals and values will make your family more happier in an instant. You’re likely to then understand each other better.
You should be there for them
Kids can easily feel neglected without showing or telling you. Being there for them will be a sign of caring and connectedness. These days everyone have a busy schedule. It doesn’t matter how busy you are, it’s important to spend as much time as possible with your kids. Being a parent is basically like a full-time job. So, you should give it your full attention. Your influence on your kids will be your greatest legacy. Make sacrifices if needed. Free up your time and energy to be there for your kids. They grow up so fast these days and the last thing you want is to miss out on a special part of their growing phase. So, avail yourself to talk and help them. If they have any school events, make time to attend it. That will show that you prioritise time with them. Your presence means a lot to your kids. Besides, there’s nothing that can make up for your absence. You should be creative about how you can spend time with your kids. From going on a hike to installing a jungle gym as a DIY project, the possibilities are endless.
Communication is key
You should be able to communicate well in any relationship. Besides, positive communication is like the language of love for your kids. We often only communicate and forget to listen. Don’t make this mistake. Make sure you listen carefully to your kids whenever they share their thoughts and feelings with you. That way you’ll know what’s going on with them and how to make them happy. It might also be best to figure out what other ways there is to express your love for your kids in ways that each of them will receive well. Parents are human too and everyone make mistakes. So, if you made a parenting mistake, apologise to them. Allow the conflicts you experience with your kids to be a path to deeper communication. It’ll help you all understand each other better and work as a team to solve it.
Not only should you express affirmation but also warmth and encouragement. It’s important to practice loving parenting instead of shame-based parenting. That will create a home where your kids and partner feel more secure. Try to avoid shame-based parenting, which is basically when you use words and actions that cause kids to think they aren’t loved or valuable. You should make your kids feel accepted, appreciated and loved. Let them know that you believe in them. That will boost their confidence and happiness level. You should value and enjoy them. Say “I love you” to them often. It might be easier to show them in the form of hugs and kisses but kids want to hear that you love them too. You might also want to share some relaxed conversations with them.
It’s important to clearly express your expectations. And if you consistently follow them through, you’ll produce responsible kids. Note that this usually takes a lot of time and energy. You should set and clearly communicate healthy boundaries about doing homework and chores. When they make poor choices, you should help them decide what consequences they should get for various infractions.
Remember that a family is one of those things that can’t be replaced. It’s important to make the best of your time together. And spending more time with them will result in a happy and healthy family.